«Remember: when in doubt, fuck.» – Colonel Frank Slade, Scent of a Woman
Having plenty of sex is vitally important to men because, among a million other reasons, it exerts a «winner effect» whereby banging begets more banging, begets even more banging, and so on in a virtuous cycle.
The first effect is on your psyche. Having sex electrifies your mojo, improves your mood, increases your confidence, and calms you down (oxytocin is a chemical released during sex, which buffers the stress chemical cortisol).
It also removes the scent of desperation from your interactions, which women seem to detect with a level sensitivity reserved for whale communications, and instinctively recoil from.
It’s a fallacy that only losers telegraph desperation.
Desperation is simply the natural result of not having sex for a while, and not having the freely available option to do so.
And the irony of course is that the fewer options you have, the fewer options you continue to have. Kind of like the rich getting richer, and the poor getting poorer. In fact, the dynamics of both the sexual marketplace and the commercial marketplace share striking parallels. If you don’t have money – or worse, you’re in debt – your existence is a mad dash to crawl out of the financial ditch. On the other hand, if you have substantial assets, you can parlay them into even greater riches through wise investing and calculated gambles.
And although we’d like to believe we have some kind of unshakeable inner strength that keeps us feeling good despite any outside circumstances, the reality is that your mojo shrinks and swells depending upon how much you have in the bank, so to speak.
Whereas this same unbridled horniness in the context of copious options isn’t desperation at all.
So the availability of girls, and the reasonable prospect of banging several girls at some point «soon» shapes the quality of your horniness. This is why it’s so crucial to maintain momentum and always make the most of your high-mojo periods. When you feel ‘on’ and randy, you should be hitting on everything with a pair of tits. Because the pendulum will swing the other way at some point, and if you don’t have a reservoir of girls to tap into, you’re destined for a dry spell that will strike at your confidence and have you questioning yourself and your actions.
(In other words, you’ll be in the poor house because you didn’t wisely invest while you had currency to do so in the form of mojo.) Girls will feel this and it’ll make getting out of that ditch all the more strenuous. If you’re a healthy bachelor, not having sex for more than a week should be untenable.
- Even if it means going to a prostitute, do it.
- Even if it means banging a real wolfer, do it.
- Even if it means calling up a girl you’re sick of, do it.
All of the confidence, and objection-handling skills, and verbal rap, and all of these auxiliary systems need to be serviced and maintained. If you don’t use them, they go into disrepair. Certainly, there’s a dark side to cultivating this player skillset. But I won’t get it into it now; suffice it to say that a dark side DOES exist but you’re willing to accept that along with the ample benefits of sexual abundance, variety, and of course, freedom. I addressed how to get out of a dry spell in this previous post. But by the time you’re in a dry spell it’s already too late in a sense, because it’ll affect your demeanor.
A friend and I smoked a spliff and went to the beach not too long ago and sat musing about life. He regaled me with stories of his former life in Canada as a drug dealer and party animal, bottle service, bitches, the whole nine.
- He said to me: «there’s a cost to ballin’»
- Truer words were never spoken.
- This thing, it’s not unlike a sport.
- You have to watch your diet, your sleep, keep fit, etc.
If you start getting careless, next thing you know, you’re warming the bench (or the bed, as may be the case). So stay on top of your game and don’t let yourself stale out. It sounds like a lot of work, but once you get momentum and feed that momentum you can maintain a high level of sexual abundance for the rest of your life!